Managing the guestlist is often one of the top sources of stress for couples planning their wedding. Where do you draw the line for extended family and your parents’ friends? Do you have to invite everyone at your office? Check out our tips below to help make the process easier!
Decide your ideal guest number
The most important, but most overlooked step in the process is deciding how many guests you would ideally like to have at your wedding. Only when you set the parameters, can you start to build your guestlist the way you like it.
Where do you draw the line for invitations to extended family members?
Some couples prefer to allocate a fixed number of places and let their parents do the filling up; others start by shortlisting the potential guests on their own, before confirming with their parents if there is anyone else they should be including on the list. Some couples also find it useful to run the list by the grandparents for another round of “checks”, as they would be the ones who are most familiar with the entire family, and the ones that people who were missed out would go to.
How should you handle invitations to your parents’ friends?
The amount of space you allocate to your parents’ friends would largely depend on your desired number of guests. However, as a rule of thumb, if your parents are contributing financially to your wedding, it is only respectful to seek their opinions on how much space they would need, and try to reach a compromise on the final allocation from there.
Do you need to invite everyone from your office?
Some couples may feel compelled to invite all their colleagues from the office even though they are not on the same terms with everyone. A good guideline to consider who to invite is whether you would hang out with this person in private. If you have no interactions with a colleague beyond work, then he/she should also not feel offended not to be invited for your wedding.
Who needs a plus one?
While it has become more common for friends to bring their plus ones to others’ weddings, if you have a space constraint, sometimes it might be useful to set some parameters. For example, some couples allocate a plus one only for people who are seriously dating, living together, engaged or married. Also, if your guest has to travel long distances to get to your wedding (e.g. flying in from overseas), allocating a plus one would be an incentive for that friend to come. Same goes for friends who might not know anyone else at your wedding.
We hope the above tips will be useful in helping you manage your guestlist and reduce some stress! Do you have any other handy tips? We would love to know!