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Making Your Marriage Work

Many couples are so caught up with the pomp and ceremony surrounding the wedding, the actual vows is completely overshadowed. It seems there are far more important things to take note of other than the vows you repeat nervously after the celebrant or officiator. Once the couple is pronounced man and wife, chances are they have a fuzzy recollection of what they have just promised each other.

Research has shown, almost half of all marriages end in divorce; and experts have noticed the alarming trend that most of these unions end within the first two years of marriage. The irony of these break-ups is that the unions are based on more than five years of dating. Studies point to the fact that while many know what love is, they are unaware of the demands and expectations of married life. Many couples enter into marriage expecting the relationship to run on autopilot, and when the end comes, they simply shrug and say, “It just didn’t work.” The newspaper recently reported that more and more couples are visiting their lawyers to help draft a prenuptial agreement. While practical, the irony of the popularity of such an agreement signals that many people enter into marriage expecting it to end in divorce.

Do not for one minute fall for that “happy ever after” ending of fairy tales, with visions of the hero and heroine riding off into the sunset. Having grown up on a diet of children’s fables, fairy tales, romance, novels and Hollywood movies, many of us wake up the morning after with a rude shock. Dating daily for several years with the frequent weekend stay-overs, are still not preparation enough.

There are many entertaining anecdotes about marriage that reveal a very disturbing mind-set. One joke goes: The cheapest way to get a live-in maid is to get married. While another pokes fun at the guys with: A husband is the only bolster in the world that fills up with age. Comic relief aside, the attitude is rather worrying.

Countless reasons are given for breakdowns, errant ways and divorces, and many blame their spouses for the problems in their marriage. Often it is the “I and you” attitude that causes the rift. Early on in the marriage, many couples agree to maintain individuality and not to stifle the other party. This agreement may be acceptable with young couples as they start getting acquainted with each other. However, this agreement will have to be replaced with a newer arrangement: A “WE” contract. Popular pronouns “I”, “me” and “my”, must be replaced by “we”, “us” and “ours” for the marriage to work.

Marriage is a team effort and individualism has to be set aside for the “corporate” good. For a marriage to work, both parties must be committed to making the union work and suppress individual needs, attitudes and opinions.

Commitment is the basic infrastructure for every marriage. As there is no such thing as a happy-ever-after-marriage, couples have to brace themselves for the good times and for the bad too. Marriage is tough and it is only with commitment that husband and wife will be able to ride out the turbulence.

Closely related to commitment is willpower – the discipline to keep to the promises that you made in the wedding vows and abide by them. Only then will the most important aspect of a marriage take place: Two complex individuals slowly being moulded into one entity. All will be well, when two become one.

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Romance On The High Seas

With a horizon that stretches as far as the human eye can see and the whispering zephyrs resounding your gentle promises of love, the stage is set for a celebration steeped in romance. Like a bridge over troubled water, your love will be smooth sailing from your very first day.

 

Setting

The exhilarating breeze rushing against your billowy clothes and the relaxing seaview all around are reasons enough to hold your wedding banquet abroad the MV “Falcon Princess”. That’s not all. From the very moment you set sail in idyllic bliss, you can your guests have absolute privacy. You will be free to let your hair down and party as hard as you want.

With a professional MC, DJ and even karaoke facilities, a night of thorough entertainment awaits. Why not make use of the excellent sound system to serenade your spouse? This is your choice to impress all your family and friends. Your guests are sure to have a highly enjoyable time and your other half will be touched by your sincerity too.

Outside, the wide open space allows the freedom of unbridled passion. Now you can live the stuff of romance novels and films. Steal an intimate kiss on the upper deck when your guests are not watching. The stars will be smiling upon you. At the end of it all, the two of you even get to kick back and spend some quality time alone at the resort.

 

Attire

A winsome gown that billows in the wind would give you an ethereal quality. Your pictures give you an ethereal quality. Your pictures will turn out great! For the groom, a tuxedo with ducktails would be ideal.

With Pirates of the Caribbean recently becoming an international hit film grossing millions the world over, you should consider setting it to this theme. True it may be a little bold, a little outrageous, but hey, you do have absolute privacy. Just imagine how fun it would be with your entire party dressed as buccaneers and ladies in waiting! Your wedding will be remembered for eternity. Don’t forget the all-important accessories such as big loop earrings and bandanas. You could even have a crossed cutlass march in. the possibilities are endless for an adventure on the high seas.

 

Favours

With this theme, any kind of wedding favours could be presented to your guests. All you need to do is inject some creativity to make it an even lovelier gift. Attach a little seashell or conch and all your guests will be in the mood for romance.

 

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La Dolce Vita

The serene sights of the bay meet the clear open sky and with the gentle caress of the coastal breeze, herald in the most memorable day of your life. You wed in an intimated affair by the picturesque bay with your closest friends and family with cocktails in the cool alfresco patio, leading up to a crescendo in a familial alcove with nothing short of fine dining. With all your senses pampered, you will be starting anew in la dolce vita.

Setting

Select a place which provides mystical ambience, complete with stage, grand piano and elaborate curtains drawn, brings to life the lavish interior. Orangey-red hues adorn the modern theatre-style décor and give it a warm yet formal touch. What you see is truly what you get; fine cuisine in elegant theatre surroundings. In fact, one almost expects a spectacular performance from the troupe of the Moulin Rouge.

 

Wedding Meal

As your family and loved ones gather in style to celebrate your day in the sun, savour the rich and romantic flavours of authentic Italian cuisine by the romantic bay. Make no mistake; Italian food is much more than just pizza and pasta. For instance, when a grilled beef is tender and rich in taste, making you salivate in an instant. Extremely fresh, the swirling black ink pasta with cubed vegetables is blanketed with a fragrant spicy marinara-type sauce. If you love spicy local food, this dish will more than suit your taste. For connoisseurs, there is also a wine list with an adequate selection of various wines for you to choose from to go with your main course.

Nevertheless, the climax would undoubtedly be dessert. Remember to make sure you leave enough room for the sweet finale. The traditional tiramisu served with a generous portion of chocolate shavings, is lightly soaked in calculated amounts of sweet liqueur and goes down more smoothly than the finest wine. Let yourself be spoilt.

On the other hand, imagine the chocolate flan is in a league of its own. Filled with a unique combination of chocolate and pear, the dark runny chocolate oozes out of the flan as it is pierced, enriching the pale pistachio ice cream. They pre-caution that there is a 20-minute wait as it is only pre-right temperature and texture, melting in your mouth.

 

Attire

For the bride, one possibility would be a traditional European style gown with intricate trimmings. Doll yourself up in pseudo 60’s make-up and a semi-beehive do. It will set you apart from the rest of the ordinary boring brides and complement your gown. You will be the sweet demure young bride from the plains of Southern Sicily.

For the groom, you need a shirt that is a little different, with a little more decorative value. Some frills on the breast would accentuate your class. A collar with tips a little more prominent would bring out your shoulders and neckline. A dark suit is always a necessity, but you can add a dash of Italian machismo with pin stripes. Last but not least, make sure your cufflinks show, and show off.

Favours

Instead of age-old ideas that have been used and reused for countless decades, why not choose something unique and steeped in Italian culture and mythology? For a gift that will be talked about for eternity, the famous Roman Wolf could be the perfect choice. A symbol of strength, vitality and even parenthood, a little statuette of the Roman wolf suckling the twins, Romulus – whom the eternal city of Rome is named after – and Remus, would make an exotic yet legendary gift.

As you can see, Ristorante Teatro is a dining experience you would be tempted to indulge in again.

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One Magical Night

Mirrored in the reflective pool, the lights of a hundred candles dance at your wedding as the hushed sounds of lapping water supply the beat. As you taste the gastronomic specialties prepared for your pleasure, you’ll soon be on a fantastic voyage into fantasy. A wedding night should always be this magical.

 

Setting

Surrounded by a tropical garden setting by the dreamy pool, and with a dedicated team attending to your needs, you will feel like royalty in an exotic faraway land. An overhead canopy shelters you from the elements, especially in the event of rain – a common phenomenon in Singapore – yet allows you liberating alfresco style dining under the mesmerising stars. Fresh air, warm mood lighting and an evening of festivities add up to unforgettable memories.

The cover of nature was further played up and the colour scheme accentuated, using an emphatic selection of green and white flora. White orchids and roses are highly pleasing to the eye and add to the intoxicating fragrance of sensuality. When we focus on the orchid theme, let’s use all the parts of local tropical orchids – including the leaves and the stalk. Any colour or theme can be created at your whim.

To cue you in for your grand entrance, you could have a violin quarter strike up an enchanting tune. Imagine, as you saunter into the limelight, arms entwined and with a pair of megawatt smiles, you wouldn’t want a boyband CD to be playing in the background do you? Instead, the fiddlers four could enhance the already electric atmosphere with a grandiose Latin hymn or a soothingly familiar love song.

Candlelit tables elaborately laid out with silverware, meticulously folded napkins and floral centrepieces set the scene for dining. Each and every guest of yours will be put at ease in the soothing ambience. For a wedding celebration by the pool, guests can mingle well as they please and slowly savour the night’s fare.

Attire

For a night as magical as this, you need to be dressed to match the splendour. A wispy gown for the bride with embroidered vines would leave all the bridesmaids squealing in delight. The prince charming should also be garbed in like fashion, perhaps in an 18th century style coat with polished buttons over a vest of ornate swirling patterns. If you wish, you can complement the look with a smart wide-brimmed hat.

For a more fun and exotic alternative, you can always turn up as Aladdin and Princess Jasmine out of 101 Arabian Nights. It is the most significant night of your entire life; why not live out your fantasies? Don’t hold back, it is a choice that’s sure to delight the inner child in all your guests.

Ask your guests to turn up in something other than the norm to match the theme. Something a little more fairy-tale or a tad more casual would be perfect. After all it is your party; you can have your wishes come true for just one night can’t you? Encourage them to unleash their creativity and let a peaceful easy feeling surface in their sartorial choices.

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Touch of Romance

Flowers – the heart and soul of every wedding. Through small they may be, each bouquet symbolises a bride and is the best accessory for any wedding gown.

Sunshine Blooms

Make a statement with this attention-grabbing bouquet of bright yellow sunflowers and deep greens. Eluding vibrant fun and energy, the bride definitely enjoys the thrill of being the centre of attention.

Sweet Innocence

The soft soothing tones of Gerbera flora, wax flowers and bear grass hand bouquet is able to deliver a sweet and demure impression. A relatively small bouquet, it suits the petite blushing bride for sure.

Classic Romance

Beautiful pale yellow roses set amidst rich green leaves make up this stunningly refreshing bouquet. Especially suitable for a classic winter theme wedding, let this floral arrangement accentuate the romantic mood of your big day.

Back to Nature

Nature lovers will adore this bouquet with its prominent natural green floral. To enhance the mood for love, you can add tiny wax flowers and tied a sweet pink ribbon with long flowing laces to add a soft feminine feel.

In the Wilderness

An artistic out-of-this-world arrangement of Waratah, Amaranthus and Australia Flowers come together in this exciting bouquet. Perfect for a wild wedding bash in the great outdoors!

Love Blossoms

Roses are the messengers of love. They are the flowers that many women can’t help but be charmed by. Pledge your undying love then, with this sweet bouquet of beautiful pink roses.

Nestled in Love

Beautifully crafted to resemble the shape of a delicate bird nest, this floral arrangement signifies the love nest that both of you united in marital bliss shall build together hand in hand. A unique bouquet with a classic choice of a variety of colours is provided would be perfect!

Burning Passion

Set your heart on fire. Ignite the intensity of your passionate love with this bold and striking bouquet of contrasting reds and greens.