Love Before Anything Else

They were never, and will never be just two individuals. Right from the start, the two of them were meant to be bound as one.

Annoying guy meets serious girl, and sparks flew between them. That is exactly how the love story went between Andre, a businessman, and Stella, a banker, both in their 30s. The two first met each other in 2007 when they were both working in the same bank.

Stella’s first impression of Andre was nothing short of an “annoying guy who cannot stop talking or asking questions, full of nonsense and likes to disturb people”, while Andre thought of Stella as “uptight, serious, don’t talk much”. It seems they didn’t exactly start off on the right foot.

Things took a turn though in 2012, after Andre and Stella went on an eventful trip to Lombok, Indonesia with mutual friends. “Somehow at the right time and right moment, there were sparks”, and the pair got together after 5 years of friendship.

As their relationship grew, so did their love for each other blossom. Andre and Stella learnt to respect each other and make compromises to keep their relationship going.

“One of the most recent memorable moments was probably our pre-wedding session in Tokyo as Andre doesn’t like taking pictures but agreed to do 2 long and tiring days of photo shoot just to make me happy”, Stella quipped.

Little moments and efforts made to express love laid out the path for a proposal which was especially meaningful for Stella. “Our most frequent activity while dating was watching movies and Andre proposed with a canvas full of movie tickets (dated from our 1st date till the most recent movie) and popped out a ring to propose to me”, Stella recalled.

Naturally, their wedding was held in the country where it all started for them – Indonesia. The couple wanted a small and intimate wedding for just their close family and friends to share in the joy of their love for each other, with the perfectly romantic cliff view sunset setting at Tirtha Luhur, Uluwatu, Bali.

The wedding venue was beautifully adorned with Stella’s favourite peonies amidst other pastel colour flowers. Fairy lights were used in the outdoor lawn and candle lights in the pool to give a romantic feel at night.

With the couple’s idea of a special day where their family and friends can spend time together in mind, their wedding was sincerely thought out and impeccably planned with lots of handmade efforts. Stella designed her own wedding invitations, wedding favours and other stationery with the help of close friends. She even customized the corsage and boutonnière, wedding decorations, flower girls and page boys’ outfits.

With a balloon release after the ceremony, bingo games (this was something Andre and Stella used to play at work back then), speeches from their best friends, and surprise song performances from family and friends, it was a simple and memorable day for the couple where they got to bask in the love from their special ones.

“We felt so much love by our family and friends, had so much fun, laughed so much”, Andre mused.

Andre and Stella shared their hopes and dreams for the future, “Continue to love, respect and support each other’s dreams, be a great husband and wife and awesome parents to our children, so that our children will grow up in a healthy and happy environment, knowing how in love his or her parents are, and how much he or her is loved.”

There are never two individuals who perfectly complement each other, but rather two people who are willing to respect and listen to each other. Andre and Stella are the exemplary of loving each other before oneself.

“Most importantly, always remember what made the both of you both love each other in the first place,” was their final thoughts on a marriage.

Love indeed comes before anything else.